“I felt a cleaving in my mind, as if my brain had split; I tried to match it, seam by seam, but could not make them fit.”
- Emily Dickenson
You might have arrived here because…
You’re looking for help navigating a relationship, job, or group you’re concerned might be abusive — even if you’re not sure.
You are seeking a supportive space where you will be met with humility, validation and respect.
You survived childhood mistreatment, such as abuse or neglect, and you may have struggled with your mental health because of this.
You may have received several different psychiatric diagnoses in the past, but it may feel like these diagnoses didn’t always help people understand what you need to heal.
You’re unsure if anything was really that bad, but you regularly feel dissociated, numb, anxious, on edge, or irritable. You may be struggling to make it through the day and you may not trust yourself; it may be a challenge to create joyful experiences or build new relationships.
No matter what circumstances brought you here, I understand the courage it takes to seek support. It may even seem like your experience wasn’t “bad enough” to justify reaching out. You absolutely deserve support, and you are so welcome here.
About complex trauma
Our responses to stress are individual, cultural, and complex, and can sometimes manifest in different mental health diagnoses, like depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and dissociative disorders, among others. I specialize in treating a range of mental health diagnoses associated with trauma. My focus on “complex trauma” means that in addition to these, I specialize in treating post-traumatic symptoms that may not fit neatly in a box, but are the result of chronic, entrenched patterns that can profoundly disrupt survivors’ lives. This “complex trauma” typically occurs when trauma is chronic, happens throughout childhood, and/or is sustained in the context of intimate relationships and systemic oppression.
Often, I find that the heart of traumatic suffering is loss. Your future, mind, relationships or sense of self may feel unstable, eroded, or lost. Your options may feel confined to whatever is safest to endure in the moment, and this may cost you joy, peace and fulfillment in life.
You may find yourself unable to do things that you want to do, unable to create the life you want, even if it’s safe to. It may be difficult to regulate your emotions, and some survivors may feel stuck under the weight of anxiety, depression, anger, shame, or a pervasive sense of disconnection and numbness. Survivors may have difficulty focusing, and may experience flashbacks, an inability to stop thinking about upsetting things, and dissociation. You may re-experience elements of the trauma as if it was happening again. You might sometimes feel that the world around you is unreal or dreamlike, you might feel disconnected from yourself, like you are not in your body, or like you are not real. Survivors may also have difficulty forming stable and supportive relationships.
You may feel suspicious of others, isolate yourself from others, or make yourself indiscriminately vulnerable and “attach” a little too easily. Your relationships may feel chaotic, uncertain, and painful. You might find it’s difficult to trust your own judgement and feel unsure of who you are. In addition, survivors may struggle with other core symptoms of PTSD, such difficulty maintaining a sleep schedule, nightmares, and a constant sense of being "on edge."
The symptoms of complex trauma are myriad, and only a few or all of these might feel relevant to you. There is hope, and my practice is dedicated to offering that.
My approach is grounded in empathy, empowerment, and the importance of reclaiming joy.
I have extensive experience treating and studying traumatic stress. My experience leads me to ground every treatment in empathy, humility and respect for my client. In therapy, I tailor my approach to your needs and work to create a secure space where you can be empowered to engage on your own terms. I might explore how your symptoms connect to the ways you’ve had to adapt to abuse or adversity: how these adaptations may protect you and your loved ones, and how they may also hurt you. Often, I find survivors have been taught to blame themselves, both for what happened and their reactions to it. Many survivors are left questioning whether they could be valued for who they truly are. I value all parts of you; my work will be to help you reclaim your ability to create joy, security and fulfillment in life.
Send a message
lily@antinoripsychology.com
(919) 228-8479